“A Look In The Mirror”

The questions (Topics) that make up “A Look In The Mirror” are designed to show where the Neighborhood Resident is along the effort scale; in other words, what efforts are they making to better themselves. This approach is different than most other well-being assessments that measure (or attempt to) where a person is in terms of results. Our intent is to not discourage someone who may just be just beginning their well-being journey. Self-efficacy and the embrace of “effort matters” underpins the 3.0 (and Melvin’s) structure. In a Perfect World, each activity in a person’s life should should be linked to an assessment of how much effort the person is putting in – not how well they performed that activity. This is reflected in “A Look In The Mirror”.

Residents are encouraged to take “A Look In The Mirror” as often as possible, especially if they feel their life situation has changed. How well Melvin and his brain, the bleedingEDGE Platform, operate is determined by how up to date information is from the Resident.

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“A Look In The Mirror”

  • How organized are you when you get up in the morning? Do you plan your day ahead?
    • Before I go to bed I make sure I have the next day laid out and prepared.
    • I plan for the week, but normally my days just kind of unfold — too often beyond my control.
    • I’m a mess. I have no idea want’s going to happen in the next hour, let alone the next day.
  • What best describes your breakfast — if you even call it that.
    • I make sure a get an ample dose of protein to start out the day along with a glass of juice.
    • I never have time for much so I just grab a donut or whatever else doesn’t look three days old at the convenience store down the block.
    • Isn’t coffee considered breakfast?
  • Average meal: providing fuel that contributes to daily activity and longer term
    • I don’t have time for anything.
    • I really try to eat well. I have the food pyramid on my kitchen wall, framed!
    • If McDonald’s had a loyalty program I’d own the one on the way to work.
  • Movement (short term): providing a continual source of oxygen for short term needs
    • Call me obsessive, but I even have a standing desk.
    • My desk chair perfectly fits my butt — and it was no small accomplishment getting it that way.
    • I have this love/hate relationship with the “stand” notifications on my Apple Watch.
  • Exercise (longer term): maintaining proper physicality for long term needs. What best describes your physical exercise routine
    • I really don’t have a routine, but I consider myself active.
    • I really have to exercise more. It seems to be a New Year’s resolution every year.
    • Every morning I stretch and work out at home.
    • I go to a health club regularly.
  • Describe your sleep
    • I sleep like a baby at least six hours a night.
    • I’m always getting up in the middle of the night.
    • It’s not a big priority to me.
  • What is your relationship with your doctor like?
    • Wouldn’t know. I don’t have one.
    • I don’t have a regular doctor. My medical needs are more when needed and provided by whoever is available, especially urgent care.
    • I wish the relationship was a lot less, regardless the doctor involved.
  • Relationship with spouse/significant other
    • It’s like the honeymoon never ended.
    • It is what it is. It’s comfortable, no fireworks — but no bottles getting thrown against the wall either.
    • It’s time for a change.
  • Relationships with family and/or close friends
    • My family is the center of my life and all the drama that comes with … and wouldn’t want it any other way.
    • I couldn’t live without my best friend. My family, well don’t they say you don’t pick them.
    • I spend most of my time alone. Solitude is my best friend.
  • Weak ties and physical Middle Ring relationships (including serendipity)
    • My door is always open and I cook every night. Just serve yourself.
    • I know my neighbors are always around if I need them, but most the time I just hang in the house.
    • Unless it’s family or close friends, I don’t really talk to anyone much. You can never be too careful.
  • How often do you read a newspaper (physical or online)
    • I go ballistic if the paper isn’t delivered every morning – when I expect it.
    • I read it – when I have the time.
    • I don’t or seldom. If it’s on the counter when I hit my coffee shop I’ll check out the headlines.
  • Describe your last experience with a book
    • A book is like crack cocaine. Once I start it I can’t put it down.
    • I read for information – not pleasure. 
    • What’s a book.
  • How much cable news (or talk radio) do you watch or listen to
    • NPR or nothing.
    • Fox News is the gospel and I put up a shrine for Rush when he died. It was a sad day … very sad.
    • MSNBC is my drug. If Rachel was on 24/7 I’d praise the lord — assuming I believed in that stuff.
  • When have you last taken a class or undertaken learning something new on you own
    • I yearn to learn.
    • I always say I’m going to take a class, but never get around to it.
    • I’ve gone to enough school. You couldn’t get me back in a classroom even if it was on the computer with me in pajamas sitting on the couch and was paid for it.
  • How do you express your creativity
    • I make my own Xmas presents and always seem to making something.
    • I write. It’s my therapy, even if it is like pulling teeth.
    • My brain is only made for input. I’m the definition of a consumer.
  • Curiosity and micro learning
    • Someday I’ll look up from my phone — but probably not today.
    • I know I have to stop and smell the roses; and believe it or not — sometimes I actually do.
    • My brain is so full of “why is that like it is” — I wish sometimes it would just stop. 
  • How are preparing for the next stage in your professional life
    • Work is work. I move up or on when someone gives me the opportunity to.
    • I have a recruiter always looking out for me.
    • I’m always asking my boss for projects to do.
  • Describe your environment
    • I surround myself with plants and art and my desk is strategically placed so I can watch the humming birds in the morning while drinking my coffee.
    • My house is clean … sort of.
    • My environment matches my brain — chaotic!
  • How do you relieve stress (walk, meditation, etc.) — fix this question
    • Stress is who I am and it fuels me.
    • I’ve downloaded meditation apps for my phone, but I’ve been too busy to actually try them out more than the first time.
    • I walk every day, not real fast, but it helps me get head back in the game.
    • Exercise is by stress reduction drug. If I get anxious or feel stressed, I’m on it. The shoes are on and I’m out the door. Speaking of shoes, I think I need a new pair.
  • Describe your drinking
    • As George Thorogood famously proclaimed: I drink alone!
    • Normally I only drink at the bar or restaurant, when I’m socializing.
    • The devil lies in the bottom of a bottle — and devil is not my friend.
  • Do you smoke
    • The first thing I do in the morning is light up.
    • I’m not smoker really, but how can you expect me not to have a drink or sit at the bar without having smoke. Geez!
    • No I don’t smoke.
  • Describe your relationship with your work.
    • I love work. Of course there’s always going to be ‘stuff’ — but overall, I have no complaints.
    • I dread waking up in the morning knowing what lies on the other side of that commute. But what can I do. You have to have a job.
    • Work isn’t great, but it isn’t forever. I have a plan. I just haven’t fleshed it out yet.
  • Do you campaign for candidates (or run yourself) during election
    • I’d rather have my fingernails pulled out with a pliers, one by one, than be anywhere near a politician.
    • I once told my coworker who they should vote for.
    • Election time is my time. Just show where the door hangers are and get out of my way.
  • How often do you go city council meetings or lobby decision makers for civic changes
    • I went once when they were going to vote on a dog park. It didn’t pass so I never went back. Animal haters!
    • I haven’t but I really want to. It’s just hard to get there early enough to get a seat. But I just have to try harder.
    • I go all the time. In fact I know the council chamber guard by name. It’s Harry.

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